Getting A Slap In The Face For Christmas, Much Closer To Home
Many years back, I hadn’t been away from my abusive family’s influence long enough to say no when they said they’d be picking me up on the way to my grandmother’s for an early Christmas. On the way, we stopped at a shopping mall to stretch our legs and spend gift money. We were very sternly warned to be back at the meeting spot on time so that we weren’t late for dinner because we didn’t want to upset Grandma. (She wasn’t part of the abuse, but Mom and [Stepfather] threatening us with other people was.)
My sister (still in high school and living with Mom) and I were very careful to be there a few minutes before the appointed time, but when it rolled around, my mother and stepfather were nowhere to be seen. Five minutes passed, and then ten, so I told my sister to wait in case they showed up and I’d do a quick stroll through the mall to find them.
I did find them. They were in a pet shop, signing the final paperwork on a purebred Saint Bernard puppy. I was told to go wait, and they’d be along soon. I returned and let my sister know where they were, and she got livid. She ran to the pet store and started yelling.
Sister: “This is money you should be spending on me! How dare you neglect me in favor of a new dog?!”
Stepfather: *Yelling back* “This is my money, and I don’t need to spend any of it on my wife’s kids!”
Eventually, my mother quieted them down (“calmed” would be doing too much heavy lifting here). The dog was paid for and slated to be picked up on our way home, and we were told in no uncertain terms that Grandma was not to hear about this because she’d be upset hearing about a new dog.
In the end, Mom told Grandma about the dog over dinner, and Grandma was not the least upset over it. Mom, [Stepfather], and [Sister] came to the conclusion that their entire fight had been somehow orchestrated by me to try and destroy the “happy part of the family” out of spite. (Apparently, my sister was never going to notice stopping at the mall on the way back, the dog sitting in the car on the drive, or, you know, a SAINT BERNARD living in the house for the next decade or two).
I went on to write this story and to reduce the contact I have with my family.