I’m a manager at a video game store. I’m working with my coworker today, since it’s a busy weekend. As a woman, I’m used to occasional degrading comments but nothing too out of line. I’m also a lesbian, which is usually enough to deter guys from flirting with me too much.
We’re both working the register when a man comes in.
Customer: “Hey… Yeah, I wanna, uh, return this.”
He puts a single game down on the counter. It’s a cheap Xbox 360 game, something that’s probably been on a shelf for two years, but he has a receipt that’s within date, so I start the return.
Customer: “Yeah, I didn’t like it. It’s not fast enough for me, you know?”
Me: “Oh, yeah, I understand that. I usually go with [Popular Game] or something similar.”
Customer: “Oh, s***, you play games?! Like, actual games?!”
The way he says this makes me a little uncomfortable. Most people who work at the company are pretty serious gamers, regardless of gender. It would be weirder to find someone who DIDN’T play any popular release.
Me: “Yeah, I’ve been playing a lot of [New Release] lately. Did you want the return in cash, card, or store credit?”
Customer: “Man, I bet you get all the dudes! You’d be like the perfect woman! Here, just put it back on my card.”
He spends a good five minutes getting his wallet out and then the card from the wallet. The entire time, he’s commenting on how I’m probably “high-demand” and “expensive but worth every penny.” I silently give him the refund and the return receipt.
Customer: “What time are you off? We could always play [Popular Game] over at my place, if you know what I mean.”
I’ve had enough.
Me: “Sir, I’m asking you to leave. Your transaction is done. Your behavior is wildly inappropriate.”
Customer: “What, hard to get? All right, I’ll leave.”
He makes his way out, complaining the whole time. It’s annoying, but I don’t think too much of it. I’m off soon after, and I head to get shopping done at a store across the walkway. When I walk in, I get a call from my coworker.
Coworker: “That dude from earlier followed you. He apparently was waiting outside our store. Be careful.”
I see the dude come in behind me. I ignore him at first, at least giving him the benefit of the doubt that maybe he’s also shopping at the store. Then, he comes straight over to me, getting uncomfortably close.
Guy: “What, still gonna pretend you’re not interested?”
Me: “Leave me the h*** alone or I’ll call security.”
Guy: “Oh, come on. We could have fun!”
Me: “Back off.”
Guy: “You aren’t even giving me a chance, baby. What’s the worst that could happen?”
I pull out my phone and dial mall security. I quickly tell them I’m being followed and sexually harassed, and they say they’re sending a couple of guys my way. I try walking away from the creep, and he pulls me by my arm back over to him.
Guy: “Nah, not running away now. You can’t lose me!”
Me: “LET GO OF ME!”
This gets the attention of a few people nearby. He doesn’t let go but tries making comments like, “Oh, babe, you’re funny,” to throw off suspicion.
Me: “I don’t f****** know you!”
Security shows up. They tell him to let me go and come with them.
Guy: “What, I can’t try to pick up girls anymore? Is that a crime?”
Security: “Stalking and harassment are. You waited outside her store and followed her after she kicked you out.”
Guy: “What? No, she was flirting with me! Come on, you guys are really gonna ruin my chance like that?”
Security: “We know she didn’t ‘flirt’ with you. With us, sir.”
It turned out the guy had skipped a court date for another case of sexual harassment and assault. He was banned from the mall, but I decided not to press charges.