Stand Up For What’s Right, Even If You Have To Sit Down After
(I’m afraid of confrontation, but I also have a tendency to speak before thinking. One day, I am walking to a mall with my husband. We have to cross a road for cars and a bike lane. A zebra crossing crosses both roads and both biking lanes, so pedestrians should have the right of way. Unfortunately, many forget about that rule, willingly or accidentally. In front of me, a group of three women crosses the zebra. Two kids on a bike, a boy of about 13 years old and a girl of about 11 years old, do not give way, but there is no accident as there is enough space. However, one of the women suddenly stretches her arm and tries to grab the girl off of her bike! The girl wobbles but manages to stop safely. The boy — her big brother, we assume — stops, as well. But before anyone else can react, I yell:)
Me: “Hey! Don’t you dare!”
Woman: “I had the right of way!”
Me: “I don’t care! You almost made her fall!”
Woman: “Mind your own business!”
Me: “I won’t mind my own business when I see someone pulling a child off her bike!”
Woman: “I had the right of way!”
Me: “That did not give you the right to cause an accident.”
Woman: “Just shut up, you!”
Me: “Not for someone who almost hurt a child! Right of way or not, you were in the wrong here!”
(The women walk on, while the aggressor keeps mumbling that people should mind their own business. The children also go on, though they look shocked. I can’t ask them if they are all right; they are already gone.)
Husband: “Wow, you were fast!”
Me: “I didn’t know what came over me. I just imagined that child falling in front of me…”
Husband: “I don’t know if I would have had the guts to say anything.”
Me: “Could… could we sit down for a moment? I’m so scared all of a sudden… My legs are weak.”
Husband: “No, not yet. You can’t show weakness to that b****. Just wait until she can’t see you anymore.”
(My husband then treated me to ice cream so I could sit down and calm down. We didn’t see any of those women in the mall again, and two years have passed by now. It’s okay to be upset if you do not get right of way, but that never justifies causing — almost — injury to anyone!)