I’m an honorary Uncle for my friend’s two children, and was doing my monthly visit/babysitting with them. I had just tucked them in and came back downstairs and since it wasn’t too late I thought I would hang out with the adults for a little while and pretend I was a mature adult, rather then the childish man who would rather spend his day hanging out with cute kids then interacting with adults I really am.
As it happens my friend had recently taken on a renter. I’d had a few brief interaction with her while with the kids, but this was my first chance to really sit down and get to know her. She was young, still in college vs my being around 35 or 36 at this time. I was pleased to find she had a good sense of humor and we had quite a bit in common. She knew allot about computers while I was a programmer, and she was going to school for early childhood education while I volunteered with kids extensively amongst other things. In fact we kept finding new things we had in common while we chatted.
Friend: “You two have so much in common, you should start dating or something.”
Renter: “Oh he wouldn’t want to date someone as young as me!”*
*which you have to admit is a much nicer way of saying “that guys way to old for me!”
Me: “and beside which you know I’m aromantic!”
Friend: “but you two are prefect together.”
Me: “That still doesn’t make me stop being aromantic.”
She let it drop for the moment, but over the next hour to hour and a half I spent visiting before it was time for me to go my friend kept pointing out things we had in common and insinuating we should just start dating, despite the renters attempt to very politely point out the age difference and my repeatedly pointing out I was still aromantic and as such wasn’t planning to date anyone.
Friend: “but you two would be so cute together. You could talk computer stuff and volunteer with kids together and stuff.”
Getting a little frustrated I decide to try a different approach. I may have sounded just a tad sarcastic at this point…
Me: “you know what, your right! We do have so much in common, how didn’t I realize what you were telling me!
I slowly walk over to where the renter was sitting as I talk.
Me: “with so much in common we can’t pass this opportunity up.
I kneel down to her as if I’m about to propose to her.
Me: oh dear [renter] would you do me the honor of being my dear friend!”
Renter: (laughing a little bit) what?
Me: “we could have long walks on the beach debating rather dynamic or statically typed programming languages are better! and we could go volunteer with kids together as the best of friends!”
The renter apparently decides to play along as she does her best to sound as if she was someone excitedly accepting a proposal, in between giggles.
Renter: “oh I’m so honored! Yes! Yes I’d love to be your friend! Oh I can’t wait to tell my family!”
Friend: “that isn’t what I meant!”
Me: “yeah, but this way we get to enjoy all the stuff we have in common together without either of us having to magically change the type of person we are attracted to. Plus with my way it will at least be a little less awkward when passer by mistake me for her father!”
This actually seemed to have gotten through to my friend, or maybe just embarrassed her enough she decide to give up on playing match maker because she finally let the subject drop after that. In actuality despite really liking the renter I only really chatted with her when I came to watch the kids, so I suppose our friendship wasn’t that great. I did in fact talk her into joining me to volunteer as a judge for First Lego League once, so we did technically volunteer with kids together one time as promised. Still waiting on the long walk on the beach while discussing geek stuff though.