I was struggling with severe depression and my psychiatrist decided to send me for evaluation for possible inpatient care. During the evaluation at the hospital, about 20 different nurses came in to take blood, have me fill out documents and question me etc. All of them said the same thing: “you seem pretty lucid and coherent, I don’t know why you’re here.” (As in they didn’t think I met the criteria to be admitted). The admitting doctor only spoke to me for about five minutes, talked over me, talked down to me, interrupted me, and even suggested that I was lying. I told him that I was stressed primarily due to finances and feeling overwhelmed at university.
Doctor: So what do you study?
Me: Literature
Doctor: Ah, so you’re more a right-brain type. So, you’re very good with words? Us doctors and science-types are more left-brain, you know, good with numbers. We deal in facts and logic.
Me: ? (*thinking ‘why is this relevant’*)
Doctor: (after only having spoken to me for a few minutes and having talked over me most of the time): Well, I think we’re going to go ahead and admit you. You know, you’re very articulate and I think you have a way with words, but I think what you’re telling me is just the tip of the iceberg. (So, basically he was saying because I’m well-spoken I must be a liar?)
Me: What about work and school? I have finals coming up. I can’t miss those.
Doctor: We can notify your job and school.
Me: Sorry, but with all due respect, how does missing school and work help me? I told you that I’m stressed about finances; how does missing work help with that? I told you I’m stressed about school; how does missing my finals help with that? I would like a second opinion and I would like for you call my psychiatrist.
He stared at me blankly, clearly at a loss, and then agreed to call my doctor. After speaking to my doctor, he came in and said (rather sheepishly) that he had decided not to admit me after all. I think it’s also important to note here as well that this is overwhelmingly characteristic of most of the experiences that I have had with male doctors (especially in the mental health field) as a woman.