(I am a teenage Chinese male, but was born and raised in Scotland, so I have the local accent and cultural awareness. For as long as I can remember, a grumpy old woman has lived on the other side of the street. She would moan and scowl at most passersby, but is mostly harmless. I am leaving my house for football practice, when I notice the old lady get off the bus with what looks like heavy shopping bags.)
Me: “Excuse me, would you like me to help you with your shopping?”
(The old lady just stops and stares at me for a moment, like a deer in headlights.)
Me: “I know you only live down the road, but those look heavy.”
(The old lady is still staring, but wordlessly hands me her bags. I take them and we slowly walk towards her house.)
Me: “Wow, you seem to have a lot in here. Are you planning a feast?”
(My efforts of small talk don’t seem to get anywhere, so we walk slowly in silence until we get to her front door.)
Me: “If you’d like, I can take these to your kitchen for you?”
(At this point she finally speaks.)
Old Lady: “How long have you been able to speak English?”
Me: “Pardon?”
Old Lady: “Your English. It’s almost like you’re a local.”
Me: “That’s because I am. I was born in Dundee.”
Old Lady: “All this time, I thought you couldn’t speak English.”
Me: “Well, I guess we just never spoke to each other until now.”
Old Lady: “No, I suppose we didn’t.”
(She then opens her front door, and gestures for me to take her bags inside. Straight away, I can tell that this old lady might not be able to take care of herself very well, as the house is a bit of a mess, and the kitchen surfaces are dirty and sticky. The old lady seems a little embarrassed so I don’t make anything of it.)
Me: “Right, let me know where you want me to put your shopping.”
(I put the things away for her, making small talk. She says she’s seen me grow up over the years but just assumed because we are Chinese we don’t speak English and don’t associate with ‘locals.’ I am able to correct a few of her misconceptions, too. I finally put the last of her shopping away.)
Me: “Okay, that should be everything.”
Old Lady: “Would you like to stay for a cup of tea?”
(I’m about to mention that I will be late for my football practice, but the look in her eyes and the tone of her voice indicates that she probably hasn’t shared a cup of tea with anyone for a long time.)
Me: “You know what? A cup of tea sounds fantastic.”
(And for the first time in my entire life of knowing this grumpy old woman on my street, I see her smile.)
Old Lady: “Oh, lovely! I’ll get out the good biscuits!”
(For the next hour we chatted some more and got to know each other. She was a widow in her seventies who had lived alone for the last sixteen years, and didn’t make friends easily. From this one hour chat, we established an ongoing plan where I would go to the local supermarket with her once a week to help with the shopping and come back for a cup of tea, and I helped out around the house to keep it clean and tidy. We invited her over to our house for every birthday, Christmas, and even Chinese New Year, which she found very interesting, although the food may have been a little too spicy for her! We remained friends for ten years until her death, where my entire family attended her funeral, much to the surprise of her family, who hadn’t visited her once in the last decade. She will always be a close friend I will remember for the rest of my life.)
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