It’s Only A Big Deal If You Make It One
A friend from college used to have a female name. After years of struggling with her identity, she became [Male Name] and began transitioning. We were friends for about ten years before this, and his male name is close to his female name — like Andrew and Andrea — so sometimes I use [Female Name] by mistake. He corrects me every time, but I still feel bad. One day shortly after he began his hormones, we are out for food.
Me: “Hey, [Female Name]—”
Friend: “[Male Name].”
Me: “Oh, f***, I’m so sorry!”
Friend: “It’s okay. Next time you owe me a dollar, though.”
Me: “Deal.”
We shake on it.
A random girl comes to our table and stands over us.
Girl: “Transphobia is disgusting.”
Friend: “She wasn’t—”
Girl: “She was!”
Friend: “Look, I appreciate what you’re doing, but I’m okay. It was an accident, that’s all.”
She stands there, glaring at me.
Me: “So, [Male Name], as I was saying —”
Girl: *To me* “A**hole.” *Storms off*
My friend and I looked at each other. He rolled his eyes and laughed. I never use [Female Name] anymore, and my friend is happier and healthier than I’ve seen him in years.
Question of the Week
Have you ever served a bad customer who got what they deserved?