When It’s Them Having The Blonde Moment

, , , , , , | Working | June 18, 2017

(I naturally have very blond hair. It’s been this way since I was a little girl, and I’ve never dyed or bleached it or anything of the sort. I am at a locally well-known grocery store picking up a few things for dinner, and the woman behind the counter strikes up a conversation with me.)

Clerk: “I really do love working here. It’s a lot of fun.”

Me: “I bet it is. I remember applying here a few years ago, but I never really heard back from the manager after the interview.”

Clerk: “Well, that makes sense.”

Me: “What do you mean?”

Clerk: “Well, the store doesn’t generally hire anyone with unnatural hair colors.”

Me: *stares*

Clerk: *hands me my bags* “You have a wonderful day, then!”

Me: *walks away, both confused and offended*

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  • chaotik_lord

    What is “very blond” in this context? I’m curious. Does that mean extremely pale/white, or very bright/yellow?

    • Elizabeth Peachey

      Hmm either would work with someone assuming it was “unnatural” I would think that the whiter blonde would be more likely though. Either way, it’s BS.

    • Rebecca Charlton

      Probably white blonde. I went to school with a girl whos hair was completely white blonde who got accused of bleaching her hair that color all the time. However, her brother went to the same school, and he was also white blonde. So was her mother.

      • Siirenias

        Platinum blonde, maybe, or it could be shockingly yellow? I’m not sure if that’s possible.

      • Nic

        I went to school with someone who was white-blonde – when she went swimming, her hair reacted to the chlorine by turning pale green!

    • Kathy Plester

      Some shades of blonde are almost white, which some people take as a dyed, unnatural colour even though some people naturally have this colour. Perhaps this is what they’re talking about.

  • Wendigone

    Sounds like someone was rightly pissed off that work dictates what freaking colour their hair is and wrongly took it out on the customer.

  • Elizabeth Peachey

    Apparently they have never met any Scandinavians then….If you have that policy, instead of just dismissing the applicant and not even giving them a chance why not tell them your policy. That way they have a choice of whether to dye their hair a “natural” color. They are working off the assumption that “unnatural” colored hair equals bad worker. That’s a bias that is likely costing them great future employees. I work in a professional office with a lot of high profile clients, we are allowed to have our hair any which way we like and dress casually but appropriate on most days. Some of my best coworkers routinely have purple, green, or blue hair, piercings, and tattoos. Does not affect their work whatsoever.

    • Abigail Hermione Irwin

      I applied to a local European deli and had an “interview” in the middle of the store. It lasted maybe 3 minutes. I was told later (by somebody else who had applied there) that the manager didn’t want older workers. So dismissing somebody on the basis of hair colour doesn’t surprise me at all.

      • Novelista

        I got passed over for a job because I didn’t go to church.

        They never said that, of course; but when the owner says, “I like my girls (meaning his waitresses) to go to church”, it’s pretty friggin’ obvious.

  • Nancy Marshall

    We had one of our best cashiers with dreads, nose ring and eventually those ear things (sorry, I am not sure what they are called, LOL) She got along well with customers and even our more “bit**y customers rarely commented. Our manager was cool with her looks and so was all the other employees.

    • Saitaina Moricia-Malfoy

      They’re called plugs.

      • Kumajiro

        I’ve always heard them refered to as gauges. Unless… maybe gauges are the ones that look like holes and plugs are the filled in ones? If that’s the case, I much prefer seeing plugs than gauges personally. But I wouldn’t complain if my cashier had either.

        • CheshireBat

          “Gauge” is the size of the plug, rather than the name of the type of jewelry. It’s very common to just refer to the size “I’m wearing # gauges.”

          • Kumajiro

            I have definitley heard it refered to just as “She’s wearing gauges.” without a number. Idk, could be a dialect thing.

          • CheshireBat

            Nah, I wouldn’t surprised if it’s become slang. Thanks for the update. 🙂

          • Lord Retro

            I had always heard it as “They’re guaging/guaged their ears”.

        • Saitaina Moricia-Malfoy

          Gage is generally the size of a needle. They are often refereed to that as that is the gauge or width of the plugs, however plugs is the correct term. Either way, a cashier having one has no reflection on who they are. Nearly everyone I know under forty has a variation (except myself as I have four holes in my ear for standard earrings and don’t want to lose them).

          Fun fact: In my area, everyone (literally) that I know has at least one body modification, be it tattoo or piercing, including my 70+ year old former neighbor (she got a nose piercing earlier this year)…we would be hard pressed to find one of us without one in order to fit any ‘normal’ requirement. (correction: most of the children don’t beyond pierced ears).

  • Stephen

    When I read that story, I dyed a little

    • Ross Martino

      Well, when you get to the root of the stupidity…

      • Matt Westwood

        I hair what you’re saying.

        • Pogla

          These puns are making me dis-tressed

          • Stephen

            Henna more puns?

      • Anne-Marie van der Veen

        You guys should be locked up.

  • Kitty

    *peeks into pants* “Hmmm, nope. According to these hairs, I’m a natural blonde.” (Yes, I know; some blond/e people can have dark pubic hairs.) I wonder what the manager would have said to my ONE strand of pink hair I had…

    • Matt Westwood

      Sorry, I initially read that as “pees into pants” and I thought: is urine a bleaching agent?

  • Ashley Waugh

    Natural redhead that grew up with my brunette/black haired dad and dirty blond stepmom. Had this one chick ask if my hair is natural and when I said it was she decided to argue about it saying ‘I’ve seen your mom pick you up’…..bitch that’s my stepmom. Just because we both are fat don’t mean we’re blood related. XD

    • And that’s not even how the redhair gene works. I am a natural redhead too, both of my parents were blond (Mom was more of an ash blond and Dad was almost white). But both of my Grandmother’s were redheads. It’s called a recessive trait for a reason (lol).

      • Jourdan Townsend

        Fun fact: Red isn’t actually a hair color. It’s a phenotypical expression of a lack of melanin, which can be a spurrious mutation (and also why the vast majority of natural redheads are very fair and sunburn easily). This means that anyone–even if there isn’t a redhead in their family dating back to the beginning of time–can have a redheaded child. 🙂

        • Jackie Fauxe

          How is red any less a hair color than, say, brown? Whatever the cause, red is still the color of the hair itself, is it not?

          What’s more, the major cause of red hair is due to the genes of the parents. How does that differ in principle from how other hair colors are determined?

          Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s interesting that certain conditions and deficiencies can result in red hair. I just don’t understand why you’d say “red” isn’t a hair color as a result of that. I know that we use “red” to broadly describe many shades of hair color, but we do the same thing with brown and blond hair too. Am I not understanding something in your argument?

        • AsaeAmpan

          Since you’re stupid let me explain something to you: if you’re born and red colored hair, YOUR HAIR COLOR IS THEREFOR RED.

    • Kathy Plester

      Even if both your parents were brunettes, that doesn’t mean you couldn’t still be a red head. My husband and I are both brunette (I am dark brown he is light). Our daughter is platinum blonde. Like parts of it are almost white. The only thing that is really, really rare, bordering on impossible, genetically speaking, is two blue eyed people having a brown eyes kid. Hair colour, though, is very complicated and depends greatly on your family history. I know because I had to research this once.

  • Dawn Singleton

    Does the color of one’s hair truly effect the way they can do their job? I would rather see the bright colors than someone with hair hanging all over their face and you can’t see their eyes, nose or even their mouth….

    • NessaTameamea

      I think it’s not about how hard you can work but more about what the customers could think of you. It’s really backwards thinking in my opinion, but many employers think that way.

  • Kathy Plester

    Um 1) That discrimination and it’s illegal. 2) So what if she dyed her hair blonde? I know some places insist their staff have more down to earth appearances for the sake of customers so they get asked to take out most of their piercings, hide any tattoos and are expected to get their hair a more ‘normal’ colour, but blonde? Really? WTF wouldn’t you hire somebody just because they dyed their hair blonde? I mean I know OP didn’t but even if she did, what’s the big deal?

    • LadyBelle

      hair dye is not a protected class, so no more illegal than not hiring someone that showed up for the interview in booty shorts. I don’t agree that is is a good policy and the store will end up losing out on great employees and most likely get their share of useless idiots that match the look, but still their decision.

      • Kathy Plester

        I mean more illegal that they admitted they wouldn’t hire people – like it’s not because they can’t do the job but some other reason.

        I mean I know some places do it for more ‘extreme’ hair colours and styles, like nothing blue or pink and no mohawks or anything. I agree it’s not right either way, if the person works hard, it shouldn’t matter but what as wrong with blonde? I mean even if it was dyed it’s not ‘extreme’ or anything it’s perfectly normal.

        • Mechwarrior

          No, it’s legal to refuse to hire someone because their hair is dyed or they have visible piercings or tattoos. It’s stupid, but there’s no law against it. It’s considered to fall under dress codes.

          • Kathy Plester

            I don’t think it can count under a dress code since you can change hair colour before you start, but I always thought if they admitted you could have a case as long as it was something that could be hidden or changed like they could say ‘You only get the job *if* you change your hair/take out your piercings’. I didn’t think they could outright refuse you a job for it. That is pretty bad.

          • Mechwarrior

            If the person doing the interview is a halfway decent person, they’ll look at a pierced job applicant and say that they can’t wear the piercings while on the clock.

            However, many people in management positions are a-holes.

          • Kathy Plester

            That is true. *sigh*

          • CheshireBat

            True enough.
            Facial hair is a bit different. Some ethnicities are prone to ingrown hairs, so demanding them to shave is discrimination. Until a few years ago, it did fall under dress codes as well.
            I realize this doesn’t apply to the story. Merely chiming in.

          • Crystal Lee Owens

            That actually is untrue. Hair color NATIONALLY is not protected, but many states do have laws on the books protecting people with differently colored hair and tattoos. Generally they apply to modest ‘out of the ordinary’ and don’t apply to things like body modification that breaks health codes (certain kinds of piercings, hair that can’t be covered in a kitchen, etc).

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  • Holly

    Not that it’s worth bothering with, but there is grounds for a lawsuit here. 🙂

  • Jourdan Townsend

    My cousin got the naturally platinum hair and dark eyebrows of our Nordic Icelandic ancestors. If she had a dollar for every time someone asked her what hair color she uses because, “…it looks so natural!” Argh.

    • Novelista

      Somehow people don’t question my dark blonde hair and black eyebrows. Now that I’ve dyed my hair black, though, it sure is nice to have matching brows! LOL

  • Christine Wood

    My dad had very pretty red hair in his youth that people had trouble believe was natural. I get a similar response from people. I have random red streaks in my hair that people think were done by a salon. I’m always getting asked where I got it done as it blends so well with the rest of my hair.

    • RallyLock

      I knew a girl like that in college. During the early fall and late spring, her hair was almost completely blonde, with just a few brown streaks – but during the winter, it was brown with blonde streaks. We had similar majors, so we ended up having a few classes together – nobody could believe that she never dyed her hair.

  • Matt Westwood

    In a civilised nation that would be considered not only borderline illegal but also laughably ridiculous. Every woman dyes their hair nowadays: red, green, blue, purple, it’s no big deal. Disallowing such a harmless fashion indulgence is utterly stupid.

    • I can understand if a business doesn’t want people with bright blue hair, green, etc working in sight of the public. It looks weird and unprofessional, and is likely to drive the conservative “Young people these days! Ugh!” oldies away.

      I don’t agree with that viewpoint myself though…

    • Pogla

      Dress codes are a thing, you know?
      Wanting to present a ‘professional’ front is not even close to being illegal.

      • Wendigone

        Dress codes which have an impact on a person’s personal life while off the clock shouldn’t be legal. Employees are not slaves or property and it should not be possible for employers to have a say in hair colour, tattoos, or piercings beyond asking them to cover anything inappropriate, pull hair back if necessary, or temporarily remove any piercings that are a safety or health risk per the type of job.

        Employers aren’t allowed to demand someone get a full sleeve tattoo and call it ‘professionalism’ so the opposite shouldn’t be allowed either. It’s still taking away a level of individual autonomy they shouldn’t be allowed to impede upon.

        • Pogla

          It’s simple: If you aren’t suitable for a job, you don’t get hired.
          If you choose to get visible tattoos, dye your hair whatever colour you want, fine.
          Don’t expect everyone else to agree with you decision, and especially don’t expect to get jobs in most customer facing industries.

          • Wendigone

            Which is complete BS, regardless of the fact it’s how things currently operate. Discrimination can be the norm without being right, and having simple appearance differences bar people from jobs is not right.

          • Pogla

            Not wanting to employ someone that has things like visible tattoos, facial piercings etc is NOT discrimination.
            Discrimination would be (for example) arresting somebody on the street for looking like that without other cause.
            You need to get over yourself. If you choose to dress the way you do, appear the way you do that is your choice. People not wanting you to represent their company is their choice. It is so far removed from discrimination as to be farcical.

          • Wendigone

            You need to get over YOUR self. I don’t have a single tattoo or piercing; I’m not speaking about me personally, and it’s kind of sad that you assume I have to be in order to care about a person’s right to not have an employer treat them like property.

            Also, I wasn’t speaking about legal discrimination, I was speaking about just plain discrimination. Which it IS, as the dictionary says: “the unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people or things.” Treating someone as undesirable because of a difference in hair etc is a form of discrimination.

      • Jennifer Williams

        But not hiring someone because their hair is very light, and deemed “unnatural” (even though it is Tyne hair they were born with), is definitely wrong.

        Since when is having naturally very light hair not professional? Should the person who posted this color their hair to fit within a “professional” dress code?