For the record, I am a woman, and I’m the one in charge of the Internet service and bills of the house. I’m also a programmer and gamer. My partner is a man.
One night, our doorbell rings at home, and I open the door.
Man: “Hello. Is [Partner] home?”
Me: “Yes.”
Man: “Can you call him?”
I do.
Man: *To my partner* “Which Internet provider do you have? How much are you paying?”
Partner: “That’s not something I handle. That’s her.” *Gestures to me*
Man: “Oh. In that case, I think she can listen to our talk, as well.”
By now, I considered this the first strike. He has learned that the Internet in the house was under my name, but I can still only listen.
Also, sadly, my partner wants to keep him going, while I would have shut the salesman down way earlier.
Man: “Do you know that your Internet price is now [amount] and will be [higher amount] starting next year?”
Me: “Wrong. I have the contract here, and these are the values we have now and will have next year.”
Man: “No, that can’t be right. That’s a good deal.”
Partner: “Yeah, she knew how to negotiate with them.”
We go back and forth about three times; he doesn’t believe the prices we have, even though I’ve shown him the contract.
Strike two.
Man: “And what speed do you have?”
Me: “500 Mb.”
Man: “Hmm, I don’t have anything to offer with that speed. But if you lower the speed, you can get a cheaper price.”
Well, duh!
Me: “Not interested.”
Man: *To my partner* “Are you a gamer?”
Partner: “Yes.”
Man: “But probably you can get by with a bit of a slower connection.”
Partner: *Pointing at me* “Again, she handles that.”
Man: *Very condescending* “Why do you need such speed? Obviously, you don’t need that.”
Strike three.
Me: “I am also a gamer! We both work from home. If we both want to play online, 250 Mb makes us lag in games.”
Man: *Very shocked and frustrated* “Oh, well… then I can’t really offer you anything. But remember my offer for next year.”
And then he finally goes away.
Partner: “Why was he so fixated on talking with me?”
Me: “Welcome to being a woman when it comes to technology.”
One thing is for sure: we won’t even consider that provider if I can’t negotiate a good contract with my current provider.