My mother has gained her new independence through her divorce and gone back to school. While I am very proud of her, this, unfortunately, fuels her entitled “the customer is always right” attitude into a brand-new weapon and makes her think she knows everything — such as critiquing the WAY someone argues with her by shouting, “THAT’S A FALLACY!” in their face rather than actually listening to their point, or thinking that she knows anything and everything about running a business.
While I was used to this behavior growing up, I’ve started to notice her awful behavior more and more and stopped entertaining it. It’s begun to stress me out to the point that I can’t stand going places with her.
We are at an ice cream place at the mall that mixes ice cream with chosen ingredients in front of you.
Me: “Mom, did you want any ice cream?”
Mom: “Yeah, I want a Tin Roof sundae.”
Me: “I don’t think they have that. This is [Ice Cream Place].”
Mom: “They’re an ice cream place. Of course, they’ll have it. If they don’t, they can give me something like it.”
Me: “Okay, what’s in a Tin Roof sundae? At [Ice Cream Place], they have their own mixtures, or you can pick a flavor and two toppings.”
Mom: “Uh, I don’t know! It’s a common ice cream, like Rocky Road or strawberry! They should know what it is!”
Me: “I don’t even know what it is! But if you give me the ingredients, I can have them make whatever is similar for you! They don’t have Tin Roof sundaes!”
Mom: “Well, how do you know? Did you ask?“
Me: “I used to come here frequently. They make things a certain way. But fine, I will ask. What do you want me to say if they don’t have it?”
She stares at me. I stare back.
Mom: “Well, if they don’t know what a Tin Roof sundae is, then I don’t want anything from them.”
Me: “Okay, fine.” *Walks away*
Mom: “Do they have chocolate?“
Me: “Yes!”
Mom: “Then they should have Tin Roof sundaes!”
I just facepalm and go inside to order. My mom approaches me after I order my ice cream.
Mom: “Did you ask yet?”
Me: “Not yet. It’s kind of busy and I’m trying to let the guy concentrate before I bombard him with more.”
A worker walks up.
Worker: “How can I help you?”
Mom: “Do you have Tin Roof sundaes?”
Worker: “We do not.”
Mom: *Miffed* “Well, do you have anything like it?”
Worker: “Um… you see… I don’t actually know what that is… but if you know what’s in it we can probably make something similar.”
My mom stares at the worker blankly for a solid ten seconds and walks away without another word.
Me: *Embarrassed* “Thank you. She’s good. Never mind.”
Later, when we sit down:
Me: “I told you they wouldn’t know what it is.”
Mom: “Well, that’s because she’s young. You shouldn’t work in an ice cream place if you don’t know your products.”
Me: “Yes, because a teenager working a part-time job is going to magically memorize the details of anything that has to do with the products they sell… Not like they have other things to do or an average memory or anything.”
She didn’t respond and just rolled her eyes. I enjoyed my ice cream in peace.