I’m a personal trainer, and I also work shifts at reception at our gym when I am not with clients. For the last week, I’ve seen a woman approach the entrance, stare at the building for a solid minute, and then scurry away.
I’ve seen her do this every morning for a week. Today is no exception, so I pretend to head out to take a phone call outside on my cell phone when I see her approaching. She goes through her same routine of building up the courage to go inside when I see her start to waver again.
Me: “Good morning! How are ya?”
Woman: “I’m… fine, thank you.”
Me: “Thinking about joining? We offer a lot of good programs.”
Woman: “There’s no point. I think about it, but…”
There’s an extended pause.
Me: “You okay?”
Woman: “…oh, nothing. Never mind.”
She starts to walk back the way she came, toward her car.
Me: “Oh, you’re heading in the direction of [Store]? Mind keeping me company?”
Woman: “…okay?”
Me: “I remember when I first thought about going to the gym. I was so unhappy with how I looked, and all the women at the gym were so skinny and so… Well, they seemed way ahead of me.”
Woman: “Really? But you look amazing!”
Me: “I feel amazing! And deep down, that’s what it’s all about. Your body will change only after your mind does.”
Woman: “But… I’ve never even been inside a gym before. I’m so unfit!”
Me: “So was I! But the first thing I’ll tell you — which I wish someone had told me at the beginning — is that this is a personal journey, and it’s for you to decide when and how. Other people can help you, but they shouldn’t force you, and you shouldn’t feel forced. That’s a one-way ticket straight back to where you started.”
Woman: “Well… I do want to. It’s just…”
Our walk has taken us past the nearby store, and we are now walking around a large artificial body of water. I keep us going as she explains to me her struggles with confidence, her weight, her self-image, and just generally how she feels about herself. Before I know it, we’ve come full circle back to where we started the walk. Part of her explanation is that she barely gets in more than 1,500 steps a day.
Me: “I hear everything you just said, but I also want you to just realize something. According to my step-counter, we’ve just done almost 3,000 steps, and you didn’t even notice.”
Woman: “What?! Really?”
Me: “Yeah, see?! Look! It shows we’ve just done 3,000 in the last half-hour.”
Woman: “Wow!”
Me: “Tell you what. I’m not going to tell you to go inside that gym if it doesn’t feel right yet, but I do need a walking workout buddy around this time most weekdays. Just come and walk around the pond with me and we can talk about whatever. Sound good?”
Woman: “That… sounds… good!“
I meet her the next day, and we walk around the pond again. And the next day. And almost every weekday when I am on shift and have an hour or so of break. Within a week, the woman is pushing 4,000 steps.
After two weeks, we start doing two laps around the pond, and I actually have to tell her I can’t take longer breaks than this, and if she wants to walk longer, then she can meet me before or after work.
Woman: “How about I walk with you… into work?”
And that’s how I got a scared but determined woman to step into a gym for the first time in her life and actually feel good about herself. She’s now a regular at the gym and has signed up for one of my classes, and we still get our lap in at the pond every lunchtime!
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