Never Offer Anything You’re Unwilling To Give
I work as a sound tech for live music events. I am a mixture of friendly and direct, which may be responsible for my ability to ask people to help break down the equipment, and their not only agreeing but roping other people in. This helps everyone leave sooner.
One musician on this night has been more needy and picky than most and seems to think of me as a friend since I did sound for him years ago. This somehow makes the following interaction even funnier.
After he packs up, he looks at the scene: four to seven people are helping me. He then asks me if I need any more help. I have enough, but I can delegate more.
Me: “Oh! Thanks! You can coil some cables if you want!”
He looks down at the cables, disappointed.
Musician: “…”
I start to get back to work.
Musician: “Actually, you know, I have a long drive ahead of me…”
I slapped on a huge, gregarious smile and shooed him off the stage and out of the way, telling him to drive safely.
When he was gone and I was coiling cables, I laughed to myself about him and all the other people who think they can offer me something and I will follow the social conventions of rejecting the offer. The usual is someone going to the store and asking if anyone wants anything. I always want one thing, like apple sauce or a drink, and they usually look a little put-out. But this guy was funnier somehow. Maybe next time, he won’t offer to do something he doesn’t want to do.