I work in a pet store as an assistant manager, and I am also in charge of the aquatics department. Most of my shifts leave me as the “manager on duty” because I close, and the manager opens or works mid-shift. The general manager, district manager, and I are all female; the only male manager for the store is the warehouse manager, and he does not outrank me when it comes to selling any of the animals, including feeders.
I’m working on stocking when a woman asks for some fish. She’s acting a little weird but nothing too out of the ordinary.
Customer: “I want that plant.”
Me: Okay, are you getting anything else tonight?”
Customer: “Yes.”
I wait an excessive amount of time for her to continue.
Me: “Okay, so, more plants, or do you want fish, too?”
Customer: “I want fish.”
I again wait for her to continue, but she doesn’t.
Me: “Okay, how big is your tank?”
The look on her face goes from pleasantly blank to irate.
Customer: “You can’t ask me that!”
Me: “What?”
Customer: “That’s a violation of my privacy!”
I am confused, wondering if maybe she misheard me or I misspoke.
Me: “Uh, I can’t ask you how big your fish tank is?”
Customer: “No! That is a violation of my privacy! You don’t need to know anything about my home! You just need to sell me fish!”
Me: “Well, I can’t sell you fish if I don’t know how big a tank you have.”
Customer: “Why do you need to know how big my tank is?!”
Me: “I need to know if you’ve got enough space for the fish you want, to make sure you’re not overstocking it and risking the fish you intend to buy — and any you already own — dying by crashing your cycle adding too much. Also, some of our fish get up to two feet long and weigh up to and possibly over ten pounds. Fish can also get aggressive if they don’t have enough space to create their own territory, especially if there are pre-existing fish in the tank.
Customer: “You can’t ask me questions! I’ve talked to people! They said you aren’t allowed to ask me that question! They said you just have to sell me fish! They said I just tell you what I want and you give it to me!”
Me: “I don’t know who ‘they’ is, but I’m allowed to refuse a sale if I’m not comfortable with it. These are live animals, and it’s my job to make sure they get an appropriate home. No one you’ve ‘spoken’ to is going to tell you anything different.”
Customer: “Where is the manager?! This is an outrage! I’ve talked to corporate, and they told me you can’t ask me questions and that you have to sell me fish!”
Me: “I’m the manager.”
Customer: “No, you aren’t! I know the manager! He says you can’t do any of this! He’s going to sell me fish! Go get him!”
Me: “Ma’am, if you can’t answer the most basic questions, I’m not going to feel comfortable with this sale. I’ve asked you the most basic question, one that any and all fish stores should ask before even considering a sale, and I would have asked you even more before selling you fish because I decide who gets them and who doesn’t.”
Customer: “This is ridiculous! What qualifies you to outrank me?! I have sixty years of experience raising, breeding, and selling fish! I know you don’t have that much experience!”
She then proceeds to ask me rapid-fire questions about my fish experience and what qualifies me to ask questions without giving me a chance to answer any of them.
Me: “Ma’am, do you want me to answer any of those questions?”
Customer: “I’m just trying to prove my point about how invasive your questioning has been.”
Me: “Ma’am, I work here. That makes me qualified to sell animals, and I may not have sixty years of experience, but I don’t need that to know you shouldn’t belittle the person doing a service for you. Also, you asked me thirteen questions, all of which I’m willing to answer, while I’ve asked you one, which you’ve refused. So, I’m just going to refuse to sell you fish and hope you have the night you deserve.”
She stormed to the front of the store and asked my coworker if he could get her fish. When he said he’d get the fish person, me, she screamed and stormed out of the store promising to complain directly to corporate about me.