Shopping For A Clue

, , , , | Right | June 15, 2017

(While at work on my register, an old man comes through my line.)

Me: “Do you have your [Store] card?”

Man: “A [Store] card? I don’t have anything. My wife died.”

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  • Siirenias

    Sorry for your loss, sir. I’d joke about how he doesn’t understand the intricacies of shopping, but I can’t.

    • arglebargle

      I was going through a line like that and the cashier opened my eggs to see if they were OK. I gave her a funny look and she apologized and said I looked single and — in her experience — single guys didn’t really know how to shop, so she was just looking out for me. Even though I’ve always known how to grocery shop for myself, I appreciated the gesture. Most people mean well and I hope someone WAS looking out for that old widower.

      • Rachel Schmachel

        I was checking my eggs at the supermarket and an old man started doing the same. After a few seconds, he asked me what I was looking for. His wife had recently died too, and it was the first time he’d been grocery shopping for himself. We had a nice chat.

        • arglebargle

          While I understand that that sort of thing happens, when I lost my wife, shopping wasn’t a problem for me. We either took turns doing the grocery shopping or did it together. Also the bills. My parents were the same. A death of a spouse can be especially hard on couples who compartmentalize quite so much. (I’m still very male, though. Clothes shopping is by aggravating necessity only.)

          • Bonnie L

            Not liking to shop for clothes isn’t just a male thing – I hate it.

          • Siirenias

            Online shopping might be to your advantage, then! I prefer seeing my clothes before I buy (despite the chronic fatigue making it an awful chore), but my brother orders everything online. He shopped for shoes at breakfast. Next time I saw him, he was wearing them.

      • Rob Tonka

        Funny, I’ve had the cashier check the eggs while my wife and I were shopping together. Where we shop, its a standard check all cashiers do for eggs, regardless of customer.

        • Siirenias

          I never noticed that they stopped doing that in my area until one did it, and I was surprised by the break in routine.

  • chickenface

    Aww, that’s so sad. Sounds like she was in charge of that stuff and he’s lost in more ways than just that without her.

    • Rebecca Charlton

      It is really sad. I watched my grandfather go through that when my grandmother died. She took care of him, and my aunts and I took turns checking on him after he passed to show him how to do simple things like laundry and make meals for himself. My husband isn’t quite so hopeless without me but I manage so much of the day to day that he jokes that I’m not allowed to die first.

    • That’s my thought, too.

  • Serabeth

    Awww :(. Why would you post that on here as if he’s a bad customer? Poor guy.

    • Vulpis

      Well…it’s a bad situation with the customer, I guess. Poor guy…

    • danielle

      it was a shocking reply… im sure it left the op speechless for a moment.

  • Damfino

    I guess you *can* take it with you.
    (Sorry, everyone)

    • Deadpool

      Well, I can. But I just keep coming back.

    • Robert Carnegie

      Either take it with you, or just don’t tell anyone where you put it.
      I don’t know if a store card is included in your estate when you pass away… your credit card debt probably is.

  • Maggie B Lind

    OP here. I remember when this happened. It was over a year ago. I asked him if he had his savings reward card, and he misheard me and said “a zip card? I don’t have anything, my wife died!” But he didn’t seem upset or angry, more bewildered. I haven’t seen him since.

  • Sionyx

    Thumbs up only because I can’t vote Sad. Poor man. The title could be more sympathetic to him, too. I’ve seen people who’ve lost a spouse, and it can be so very heartbreaking.

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  • James Smith

    Whoever wrote that title: you are a bad person, and you should feel bad.

  • Sadies Ariel

    I keep imagining this is how it’s going to be if my grandma dies before grandpa. They came from the generation where women did everything for men – first his mom, then when he got married my grandma. Now he’s in early dementia (or Alzheimer’s, not quite sure which) and almost never even drives anymore because it’s not entirely safe. He even admits that he gets confused with money (she handles all the financials as well as everything else), among other things. He also doesn’t hear very well, even with hearing aids (eardrum damage from guns during army training), which exasperates his lack of understanding.