Only Deserving Of A Jail Cell

| Romantic | December 7, 2015

(Our bar is a local “cop bar”. There’s a woman in her late 20s who comes in a few times a week and she’ll sit at the bar, chat with staff, and read while she has a drink and waits for her husband to get off work. We’ve gotten to know her pretty well, and all of our staff members [except two people who only work mornings, and haven’t met her] like her. She’s friendly, and actually somewhat petite so she seems unassuming at first. This happens one evening when there’s a new guy in the bar.)

New Guy: *to her* “Well, hey there, baby! ”

Woman: *glances up at me, with a “here we go” look, but doesn’t respond to him*

New Guy: *looks at me, then clears his throat* “I said, hey!”

Woman: *without looking up from her book* “Hello.”

New Guy: “How about you and I get some dinner sometime?”

Woman: “No, thank you.”

New Guy: “No, no.” *waving his hand dismissively and adopting an aggressive tone* “I said… ‘How about you and I get some dinner sometime.’”

Woman: *looking up at him for the first time* “I heard you; I’m just not interested. Now if you don’t mind, I’m trying to read.”

New Guy: “No, you see… I do mind. I asked you on a date. You owe it to me to give me a chance.”

Woman: *clearly annoyed* “Actually, I don’t. You wanting something doesn’t mean you’re entitled to it, and it doesn’t mean anyone is required to give it to you.”

New Guy: “But I deserve—”

Woman: *interrupting* “You deserve to be treated like a human being. But that does not involve accepting your invitation just because you’re interested. You being interested in someone doesn’t mean anything except that you’re interested.”

New Guy: “No, you’re wrong! It means I deserve a chance!”

Woman: “No, it doesn’t. Let me ask you a question. You obviously think it’s wrong for women to turn men who express interest down, but do you think it’s wrong when a man does the same thing?”

New Guy: “No, of course not!”

Woman: “Why?”

New Guy: “Because, you women can get dates anytime you want. It’s not a crime to turn somebody down.”

Woman: *to me, as she turns back to her book* “You want to explain this one to him?”

New Guy: *lowering his voice* “For all you know, I could have a weapon in my car and make you take that date with me.”

Woman: *placing her bookmark* “You should really learn something about somebody before you threaten them.”

(She stands up, and he assumes this means they’re going to go somewhere and tries to grab her arm. Next thing he knows, he’s face-first on the floor, and the bouncer is running over.)

Woman: *calmly* “[My Name], will you call Sergeant [Name] at the police station down the road, please?”

New Guy: “You’re a cop?!”

Woman: “No, but my husband is.”

New Guy: “Why didn’t you just say you were married?!”

Woman: “Because it’s none of your business, and I don’t actually have to tell you that. You should have accepted it when I said ‘no.’ You don’t deserve an explanation, and you aren’t even entitled to an answer.”

(We hope never to see the guy again, and my co-workers and I really don’t know what happened to him. Maybe next time he won’t threaten a random person in a notorious cop bar?)

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