No Means No, Even When You’re Three
My husband and I are teaching our three-year-old about consent and not having to express affection with others if she doesn’t want to. We are visiting my in-laws and my daughter is busy playing.
Mother-In-Law: “[Daughter], come give me a hug.”
Daughter: “Not right now.”
Mother-In-Law: “Awww, please?”
Daughter: “No, but we can do a high-five!”
Mother-In-Law: *Pouting* “I’ll cry if you don’t give me a hug. You don’t want Grandma to be sad, do you?”
Before my husband or I can say anything:
Daughter: “That’s okay. You can be sad.”
[Mother-In-Law]’s face was priceless. I had to resist cackling but was pretty proud of our kiddo.
Afterward, we did have a conversation with [Mother-In-Law] about respecting boundaries and not trying to guilt our daughter. She did get on board quickly when we suggested that if she couldn’t agree, visits would stop.
Question of the Week
Have you ever served a bad customer who got what they deserved?