Getting On A Boat And Getting Sloshed

| Bahamas | Working | July 17, 2017

(I’m 15 and going on a cruise to the Bahamas with my 23- and 21-year-old sisters, as well as my parents. My sisters order wine one night at dinner, and our waitress comes back with three glasses instead of just two.)

Waitress: “Here you go.”

(She hands my sisters their drinks, and then proceeds to give me one.)

Me: “Sorry, I don’t think I ordered wine.”

Waitress: “Are you sure? I remembered all of the daughters ordered drinks.”

Me: “I’m 15.”

Waitress: “Oh, well, just keep it.” *winks* “No one has to know.”

Dad: “I know!”

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  • Serabeth

    I guess cruise ships don’t have to deal with the same undercover inspections that other restaurants do. I’m guessing that combined with only international laws applying on the water made the waitress more lax? I don’t really know anything about this sort of thing. That, or she’s an idiot. You’d think upon learning that OP was 15 that she would’ve at least gotten permission from her parents first.

    • Celoptra

      from most of the cruises I been on you need to buy a package

      • Rob Tonka

        And even in thise cases, its not a pavkage that everyone on the,ship has purchased, so they still need to check your account to verify that you are entitled to that drink.

  • Rob Tonka

    I want to call bs, but I suppse some cruiseline may operate this way. The cruise lines I am familiar with, alcohol is NOT included. You have to pay for it. And when you are at dinner, your dinner server is NOT the person who brings you alcohol. Bar service handles the booze and you sign for each drink right rhen and there.

    • Celoptra

      don’t know about cruises, but in a restaurant even though the bartender does the mixing-the server (if you’re at the table) is the one who servers it you

      • Rob Tonka

        I’ve been on almost 20 cruises. Primarily Carnival and Royal Caribbean, but also a few other lines. And my experience in the dining room is that the server never deals with booze. There is someone completely seperate going from table to table to see if you want anything from the bar. That person will then hadle your booze needs AND take your ship card to charge you and have you sign off each time. The rct that you sign was prepared at the bar and brought to the table along with your drinks. So based on that, I’m looking at this story thinking, they already have that 3rd glass on the rct that someone needs to sign. They ain’t just giving it away.

        If someone else has been on a cruise where alcohol is included, I’m willing to believe it, but I just have not seen that.

        Even if there is some package you can buy that provides you with unlimited booze, they still have to check your account, and not just hand it out like water.

        • Cathrope

          Princess Cruise lines I believe you can buy a beer package.

        • Rebecca Jones

          Maybe OP didn’t catch on that the bar service was separate and thought that one server was helping out their main server or something? She was 15, and clearly not inclined to drink at the moment, so may not have been paying that much attention, or it was a while ago and her memory of it is fuzzy.

          • Rob Tonka

            Whether she was paying attention or not, my issue the idea that whichever server seemed to be passing it out like water without either charging the recipients or verifying that the recipients had purchased a package that would allow for unlimited wine.

          • Rebecca Jones

            Okay, but what you said was that you call BS, which I assumed that meant you didn’t believe the story, because the regular servers and bar service were different on a cruise, which is what I was replying to.
            If OP wasn’t paying attention, or just thought it was unnecessary detail, then we might not have gotten the part about payment or verification. Could be the waitress had charged for two glasses, but misremembered and brought back three. Someone else mentioned they might have gotten a bottle to share and the glasses were empty glasses, in which case payment would have been the same either way. (Although the wording sounds more to me like they were glasses already filled with wine.) Or the waitress was just terribly irresponsible and shouldn’t have been working with alcohol. Probably that one.

          • Rob Tonka

            Technically, I said I WANT to call bs. Didn’t quite do it. In other words, I was open to the possibility that it was true, but the facts as presented made me skeptical. And what made me skeptical was not so much WHO served the drink, but that there was no mention of anyone actually signing for the drink and the server just handing it out. Even if the server was going to comp them the drink cause of her error, that would require redoing the rct. That is what made me skeptical, but I admit, I can see a situation where all that occured and OP just did not include those details in the story.

        • Maureen Wick

          I’ve only done Disney Cruises, but on those the assistant server handles the drink orders and bussing of the table. You have the same team every night of your cruise, But the cruiseline is strict about serving minors even in international waters. You can buy a wine package or you can just order by the glass. Any assistant server who got caught doing that would likely be fired and put off at the next port.

          • JDS

            Alcohol on a Disney Cruise, shocked just shocked.
            LOL!

    • Gnomer Denois

      The cruise I was on many moons ago would have had a sommelier handle any wine orders and it would have been signed for (allowing the charge to the room). The only way I can figure, is if it’s like Brett Dunbar said that they ordered a bottle and the waitress brought 3 glasses instead of 2. And perhaps the “waitress” is the wine stewardess.

      • Rob Tonka

        I’m no wine drinker, but had they ordered a bottle, would’t they pour at the table and leave the bottle?

        • Gnomer Denois

          I would think so (also not a wine drinker). But in the scenario where this works, the waitress is bringing empty wine glasses which would then be filled by the sommelier, or if she’s the sommelier, she’s just putting down the empty glasses and would then pour the first glasses for each.

    • Darth Pseudonym

      If they mistakenly bring a drink, they can’t take it back or do anything with it but throw it out (basic food service rules), so they might as well leave it at the table.

      • Rob Tonka

        This is true. And I suppose if this happened, recounting the part about dad making sure he didn’t get charged for it could easily be left out of the story, though that’s the part of the story that caught my attention.

      • TheWonderRabbit

        They didn’t bring a drink though, just another glass.
        Wine is always poured at the table so it wasn’t wasted.

        • Darth Pseudonym

          Wine is not always poured at the table, especially if it’s cheaper stuff (and boxed wines are increasingly decently quality, but not suitable for table-pour).

          In any case, wine by-the-glass is sometimes served in the glass, and in this case it certainly seems to be, as the waitress “hands my sisters their drinks, and then proceeds to give me one” — drinks, not glasses.

    • PimpKat

      When we went pm a cruise we just got our drinks. Both in the restaurant and the bar where we were also seated at a table they just came with them when we orderred and we just settled the bill when we left.
      She already poured the glass and so might just write it off since it would be wasted anyway and you can’t really charge someone for something they haven’t ordered.

  • Kitty

    “Well, I don’t WANT to drink alcohol, so kindly take it away, okay?”

  • Cathrope

    Since the boat is registered in the Bahamas and as far as I know, they don’t have an age limit on alcohol, a 15 year old could drink, unless of course the boat does have a policy that you have to he 21+ to drink. Then the server would be wrong.

    • Novelista

      Google says 18 for the Bahamas, but I agree with everyone who’s saying “international waters”.

      • Cathrope

        Outside of murder and rape, I think everything is fair game in international water

        • Blake Barrett

          So a poor man’s Purge?

          • Cathrope

            what?

        • Daniel Gallagher

          Ships in International Waters are sill subject to the laws where the ship is registered to.

          • Cathrope

            Ok

  • Luxornv

    International waters

    • allahboleh

      That’s how I figured out I was good at gambling about the same age

    • Larry Berry

      If it’s a matter of international waters, then why the need for “no one has to know”?

      • PimpKat

        Might very well be a bad joke.

    • Daniel Gallagher

      A ship still has to follow the laws of the country it is registered to. Otherwise every voyage would be The Purge

  • Brett Dunbar

    It sounds like they bought a bottle of wine between them (this works out cheaper than buying by the glass) and the waitress assumed it was for all the girls so brought three empty glasses.

    In UK restaurants often have wine glasses with napkins in as part of the place setting, you can ask the glasses to be taken away if you don’t drink. If an adult (over 18) buys it a 16 year old can drink beer, cider or wine with a meal in a restaurant.

    • Daniel Gallagher

      donno how it is in Bahamas about giving it to a minor but in the US it is explicitly illegal to buy alcohol and give it to a minor.

      • LawGeek

        Not if you are their parent, at least at home. I believe a parent can do so at restaurants in sime States.

        • Daniel Gallagher

          in all but 8 states it would be illegal to give it to them anywhere but at home.

          • LawGeek

            Any good resources? Not my area of law, I should read up.

  • Gabriele Alfredo Pini

    Oh my gosh, she will drink a glass of wine at fifteen!
    In front of her father!

    She may learn that alcohol is nothing special and that you can drink and be a good person!



    And I don’t even drink.

  • Matt Westwood

    Here’s a thought: maybe the laws are different in the Bahamas. US law does not apply everywhere in the world.

    • RoseDragon11

      I think the issue is more she’s not getting the drink she ordered and the waitress is too lazy to just fix a simple mistake. If I order lemonade I don’t want the margarita I was served. I’d still want a lemonade. At least that’s what I got from it.

    • Daniel Gallagher

      Bahamas drinking age is 18

      • Matt Westwood

        Maybe they’re not so paranoid about observing that somewhat arbitrary law than the utter f***ing lunatics in the US.

  • Riviellan

    Uh, you can go to jail for serving a minor alcohol…

    • RoseDragon11

      Bahamas doesn’t have an age limit on drinking I believe

      • Celoptra

        18 is the Bahamas’ drinking age

        • RoseDragon11

          Turns out you’re right, thanks for the correction.

          • Celoptra

            I googled the drinking age

          • RoseDragon11

            I asked someone who been on a trip to the Bahamas and that’s what they told me so I assumed it was correct. They were probably just messing with me and I took them seriously.

          • Stacie Marie Carrel

            It depends on how long ago they were there, OR how old the source for their information was. They probably didn’t intend to give you the wrong info. If the person looked up drinking laws and didn’t realize the source book was from ages ago, they could have gotten the wrong info. If they were going off of personal experience or the tales of a family member who was there years before, then it could have changed in the meantime. Drinking laws have always been highly variable in most countries. Just in the US alone it changed 4 times in the last 100 years: whatever age it was before prohibition, then prohibition where no one could drink, then 18 with WWII, then up to 21 sometime after that.

      • LawGeek

        Only relevant if they are in Bahamas water, which it doesn’t say they are.

  • Leah

    To all those people going on about the legal drinking age and the ‘harsh penalties’ for supplying alcohol to an underage person: if they are sailing in international waters and the ship is not registered in the US, then I’d assume chances are american drinking laws do not apply. (Would be interested if there are any legal experts around who can actually give a definite answer on this one).

    • Tim Van Acolyen

      You are correct.
      (source: I’m a legal expert, trust me on this one mkay)

  • Tim Van Acolyen

    Regardless of where you are and what laws apply, it think it’s really bad manners to serve alcohol to a 15 year old without the parents consent.

    • Pisces

      It was also bad of the waitress to not make sure she checked all IDs and then leave a minor with alcohol. She could lose her job and get jailed.

  • Andrew

    I see a lot of people discussing whether it was legal, but I’d be pissed if I didn’t order wine and someone brought me some because of the expectation that I’d pay for it.

    Cruise ships tend not to be all-inclusive. When I went on a cruise a few years ago, I paid for the little sticker on my room keycard that gave me unlimited juice and pop, but all alcoholic drinks were charged to the room.

    Given that the waitress came back with three wine glasses and no mention of the bottle, I assume they bought individual glasses, and billed for three glasses.

    That dad might be annoyed that his underage daughter is drinking, and maybe he shouldn’t worry about one glass if she’s responsible. But he’d be super annoyed when he saw the bill and got charged for something nobody asked for.