For Bitter Or Worse

, | Montana, USA | Right | August 8, 2012

(I have been working at the same fast food restaurant since high school. That was a little over four years ago, so a lot of the regulars know me pretty well. I’m also usually mistaken for being much younger than I actually am, especially when I have my hair pulled up. I am also a recent newlywed, and my wedding band doesn’t look like the typical wedding band.)

Me: “Hi, welcome to [fast food restaurant]. What can I get you?”

Regular Customer: “Oh, that is a pretty ring!”

(The customer points to my wedding band, which is silver with a gold Celtic Claddagh in the center.)

Regular Customer: “Who got that for you?

Me: “Oh, it is my wedding band. My husband got it for me.”

Regular Customer: *blank stare*

Me: “…Ma’am?”

Regular Customer: *starts yelling* “You are FAR to young to get married! This is insane! I need to speak to your manager!”

(At this point, I don’t know what to do, so I go get one of supervisors.)

Supervisor: “What seems to be the problem, ma’am?”

Regular Customer: “Did you know that this young woman is married? She is too young to get married! Was she forced? How can you allow something like this to happen to one of your coworkers?”

Supervisor: “Ma’am, how old do you think she is?”

Regular Customer: “She can’t be more than seventeen… Oh, I know!” *to me* “You are pregnant, aren’t you?”

Me: *completely shocked* “No, ma’am, I’m not pregnant. And I’m not seventeen. I’m 21.”

Regular Customer: “No, you aren’t, I’ve been coming here for years. You are seventeen, and you are probably pregnant which is why you were forced into marriage.” *to my supervisor* “What is this world coming to these days?!”

Me: “Here ma’am, take a look at my ID.”

(The customer looks at my ID, which clearly shows that I am 21.)

Regular Customer: *frustrated* “Well, you’re still young to be married. It must have been a shotgun wedding!”

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  • possiblymeprobablyme

    I honestly don’t know why anyone indulges these people. It’s not relevant to the transaction and it’s none of their business.

  • EJ Nauls-Poland

    How about we take a shotgun to your face, lady?

  • Jason

    To be honest, while her behaviour was awful, I somewhat agree with the customer’s final point. As I understand it a person’s brain undergoes three stages of major development- in the womb, for about nine months afterwards, and from puberty until the age of about 25. I honestly believe that any younger than that is too young to tie yourself to another person.
    I mean, I wouldn’t judge others for doing so. They were (presumably) doing what they felt was right at the time, a feeling which may remain or change in time, and it’s their life to lead as they will. My problem is more with the society which romanticises marriage and being “together forever” with “your true love” instead of encouraging young people to develop their own identity.
    (And I say this as someone who got engaged at 23, married at 27, and is still happy with this relationship.)