An Undesirable Train Of Thought

(I am a woman with intimacy-related health issues, engaged to a trans woman. My fiancée and I are talking about the problems that marginalized people have in dating when I have a thought.)

Me: “I’m so glad that we have found each other.”

Fiancée: “I am glad, too. We’re basically undesirable to most people, but we are good together.”

Me: “That word undesirable is pinging something in my head. Oh, what am I thinking of?”

Fiancée: “The untouchables in India’s caste system?”

Me: “I don’t think so. Never mind.”

Fiancée: “Maybe you’re thinking about how Nazis called the people they killed ‘undesirable’?”

Me: “I hope my brain isn’t making a connection between our relationship and Nazis!”

(And we had been having such a good time until my brain did that.)