All Women Learn To Fear The “Hey”
I meet this guy at a party. At first, we hit it off, and we keep talking on social media, but after some time, he starts giving me some really creepy vibes so I cut back on talking to him. He is never outright rude but is persistent.
On several occasions, he asks me where I live and asks me for my number. Actually, he doesn’t ask; he says, “Tell me where you live,” or, “Give me your number.” Every time, I avoid telling him, and he replies, “All good,” but then a week later, he’ll ask again.
This isn’t enough for me to kick up a fuss, and as we have so many mutual friends, I don’t want to start any drama, so I reply civilly to his messages. This conversation is the turning point for me and happens during the peak of the health crisis.
Guy: “Hi, beautiful, how are you?”
Me: “I’m good. How are you?”
Guy: “Not bad.”
Silence.
Guy: “What were you up to today?”
Me: “Not much, just getting some work done before dinner.”
Guy: “Ah. I went out for dinner. To [Local Restaurant].”
Me: “Oh, I love that place!”
Guy: “After [global health crisis], can we catch up?”
Me: “Um… sure?”
Guy: “Where do you live?”
Me: “Far away from you, haha.”
Guy: “Where? Tell me.”
Me: “Why do you want to know?”
Guy: “No reason, just asking.”
Me: “Lol, well, just far away from you, haha.”
Guy: “I’m now living in [Suburb].”
Me: “Oh, that’s where [Mutual Friend] used to live. Did you always live there?”
Guy: “It was right next to his place. And no, before I was living near the beach.”
Me: “Lucky! I’ve always wanted to live by the water.”
Guy: “Mhm.”
Me: “So, you and [Mutual Friend] were almost neighbours?”
Guy: “Yep. Where do you live?”
Me: “I already told you.”
Guy: “No, you didn’t.”
Me: “Yes, I did. Far away from you, hahaha.”
He leaves me on “seen” for twenty minutes and then comes back.
Guy: “Are you free tomorrow?”
Me: “I have work tomorrow.”
Guy: “What time?”
Me: “Nine to five.”
Guy: “We can meet up after five?”
Me: “I think you’re forgetting a little health crisis that’s going on these days. It’s also my mother’s birthday and I’m making dinner.”
Guy: “Okay. What about Monday?”
Me: “Again. Health crisis. I thought you wanted to meet up after it was over? Also, Monday is my birthday and I already have plans with my family.”
Guy: “My birthday is Tuesday. We can celebrate together. I have a party on Saturday. Do you want to come?”
Me: “Hahahaha.”
Guy: “What’s so funny?”
Me: “For the third time now. HEALTH CRISIS. And I have told you before that I am living with my parents who have illnesses that make them high-risk and a sister who has asthma and is also high-risk. I can’t put their lives at risk just for a night of partying. Do you understand?”
He leaves me on “seen” for ten minutes.
Guy: “Can you do Wednesday?”
This led to me moving his messages to the “ignore” section of my inbox and essentially ghosting him. This happened about a year ago, and yesterday I was scrolling through my ignored messages for the first time. He messaged me eight times with a “Hey,” or “How are you?” over the last ten months.
Question of the Week
Have you ever served a bad customer who got what they deserved?