I was visiting my friend and her two kids, who call me their Uncle. I love kids and have spent most of the day with them already. When dinner time came around my niece decided she didn’t want to even try her meal, despite her mom assuring her it was something she liked. My niece is usually a great kid that goes with the flow, but on the occasions she does decide to be stubborn she is *very* stubborn.
When my nephew finished his meal and asked to watch a show before bedtime I took him to pick out a show, but his sister was told she wasn’t allowed to get up until she at least tried some of her food. Neither mother nor child are going to budge on their stance, and so my Niece ends up bawling her eyes out at the table still not allowed to get up.
After I got my nephew’s show started he was too engrossed in it to play with me. I was due to leave soon anyways so I figured with all the kids preoccupied I might as well say my goodbyes now, but first I’d make one last attempt to resolve things with my niece.
Me: “[niece] it’s late and it’s about time for me to go home. I wanted to stay and play a little longer with you but It’s almost time to leave and I can’t play with you until you eat so if you aren’t eating I’m going to go home now.”
My stubborn niece, who has just spent 40 minutes doing anything she can to avoid eating, begging, crying, and throwing tantrums, takes one look at me and then grabs her fork and immediately stuffs food into her mouth. I don’t think she has ever displayed how much she valued me more than her willingness to give up on her fight with her mother just to have a few more minutes of play time with me!
Since her brother is too caught up in his show to interact with me anyways I stick with my niece as she eats. We make it a game that she gets a kiss on the cheek each time she takes a bite, to some happy giggling from her each time. At one point she gets her kiss only to open her mouth up to show me she hadn’t actually ate the food she put in it, grinning manically at her deception. From then on the game is that she gets a kiss if she swallows her food, but she can always try to trick me and see if I’ll fall for it (I didn’t after that…)
In the end not wanting to leave right after niece finished her dinner, having implied that we would play some after dinner if she ate, I offered to give my niece her bath and ended up staying an extra hour helping to get both kids tucked into bed.
Now every visit with the kids includes my staying to help tuck them in. I will also randomly get messages from her mom saying her picky eater is refusing to try something and jokingly asking if I can come over and magic her into finishing her dinner.